Have you ever been having a really hard time, when someone said to you…
Oh, it’s not that bad! You’re totally fine. You have nothing to worry about. Everything will turn out perfect!
While that person was probably well-intentioned, they most likely didn’t realize that their words did the opposite of helping. In fact, those words might have even hurt you in some ways. You came to a friend to be vulnerable and tell them about your struggles, but instead of listening to you, it felt like they dismissed your feelings.
That’s what we call “toxic positivity” — when someone is unrealistically positive in the face of a painful situation.
But don’t think that the alternative is to despair! We all go through hard times in life, whether that be trauma, the loss of a loved one, or mental illness, and in these moments, we need to let ourselves feel those emotions instead of suppress them. At the same time, though, we need to commit to healing and becoming happier.
This can be a tough subject to navigate, which is why I’m bringing back neuroscientist Dr. Caroline Leaf to share her expert advice!
Dr. Caroline Leaf is a communication pathologist and cognitive neuroscientist with a Masters and Ph.D. in Communication Pathology and a BSc in Logopaedics from the University of Cape Town and the University of Pretoria in South Africa, specializing in cognitive and metacognitive neuropsychology. Since the early 1980s, she has researched the mind-brain connection, the nature of mental health, and the formation of memory.
Dr. Caroline was one of the first in her field to study how the brain can change (neuroplasticity) with directed mind input. During her years in clinical practice and her work with thousands of underprivileged teachers and students in her home country of South Africa, and in the USA, she developed her theory (called the Geodesic Information Processing theory) of how we think, build memory, and learn — creating practical guides and tools that have transformed the lives of hundreds of thousands of individuals with Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI), chronic traumatic encephalopathy (CTE), learning disabilities (ADD, ADHD), autism, dementia, and mental ill-health issues like anxiety and depression.
Dr. Leaf’s podcast, Cleaning Up The Mental Mess, YouTube videos, and TV appearances have reached millions globally. She has been featured on Elle, TED, Bustle, Medium, Huffington Post, The O Magazine, Thrive Global, Something You Should Know, Getting Curious, and many other TV, radio, podcast, and print outlets. Most recently, Dr. Caroline has been working on her app, Neurocycle, which uses a scientifically researched and revolutionary 5 Step Process to help you take back control over your thoughts and your life, with scientific research showing it reduces anxiety, depression, and toxic thoughts by up to 81%.
I had the pleasure of interviewing Dr. Caroline back on Episode #1,079 on how we can heal our minds and overcome trauma. It was such an insightful and helpful interview, that I knew I had to bring her back! Make sure to check back on Wednesday for Part Two of this new brand new interview!
But for now, join me on Episode 1,127 to master your mind, detox your brain, and own your identity!