Yes, we are talking about relationships again on The School of Greatness.
Partly because I love learning as much as possible about how to create and maintain healthy, amazing relationships (and I need a lot of coaching in my love life).
But partly because I heard today’s guest speak at Summit at Sea in November and I knew I had to have her on the podcast.
Esther Perel is a world-renowned relationship therapist, bestselling author, and sought-after speaker who has focused her career on exploring the role of sex and eroticism in making and breaking intimate relationships.
She has an incredible world-view of relationships in many different cultures, which has allowed her to see what works and what doesn’t on a bigger level.
I asked her a ton of questions in our interview and she had answers.
You may already have set ideas about what intimate relationships should look like, but I know you’ll get some new perspective from listening to this interview.
Get ready to get vulnerable with yourself as you take a look at your relationships in Episode 285 with Esther Perel.
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Some questions I ask:
- How does your anxiety and dread for things work for or against you?
- Why did you write this book about sexuality?
- What are the core reasons you see that end relationships?
- How does your work support or not support your relationship with your husband?
- What’s the ideal relationship in the modern world?
- How do you know when it’s the person you can make a life with?
In This Episode, You Will Learn:
- Why Esther was inspired in her work by the Clinton sex scandal
- The cultural differences in how adultery is viewed around the world
- The effects in the U.S. of how sex education is presented
- Indifference, contempt, neglect, and violence are the main issues in any intimate relationship
- Why people often treat their partner worse than anyone else
- The impact our parents have on our relationship skills (this is big)
- Women get bored with monogamy sooner than men (because the romance usually dies after marriage)
- A better question than “What turns me off” is “When I turn myself off is”
- Why investing in being your best self and pursuing what lights you up keeps you interested in a monogamous relationship
- The relationship between emotional risk and desire
- We now expect our partner to be a whole village for us since we live much more private lives
- The 4 Pillars of Modern Relationships: Trust, Affection, Intimacy, Desire
- The idea that your marriage can have different phases (like a new marriage each time) with the same person
- The value of yearly check-ins with your partner (not when a crisis is happening) to see what’s going on
- Why it’s important to separate the idea of failure from divorce
- The Millenial generation are the children of the divorced and disillusioned
- The influx of couples who are married but live apart aka LAT couples (more common in the older generation)
- What originally attracts you to someone is often what eventually drives you crazy about them
- Plus much more…
Continue Seeking Greatness:
- Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence
- BONUS: Esther put together a list of the 10 questions to ask yourself about your sex life and her top 3 resources to improve your relationships – GET IT HERE
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You may also like these episodes:
- How to Consciously End a Relationship in a Healthy Way with Katherine Woodward Thomas
- Neil Strauss and the Uncomfortable Truth About Relationships
- Matthew Hussey on the Secret to Attracting Your Dream Relationship
Did you enjoy the podcast?
I learned A LOT about my relationships from talking with Esther. I think everyone can. Tag a friend who wants to hear about this!