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Ryan Serhant

How to Transform Your Mindset Around Money & Negotiating

What's your money mindset?

Oprah Winfrey said, “Do what you have to do until you can do what you want to do.” And renowned language instructor Benny Lewis also said, “The difference between a stumbling block and a stepping stone is how high you raise your foot.” 

Life’s obstacles can either make or break us, depending on how we perceive them: it’s easy to raise our feet high above those obstacles and leap over them if we have the right attitude and mindset.  But if we look at life’s obstacles as stumbling blocks, we’ll struggle to accomplish anything or move in the direction of our dreams. 

My guest today is Ryan Serhant, a successful real estate entrepreneur. He created the Serhant Team New Development Group: a prominent force in new residential, high-rise construction sales. Serhant has been ranked by the Wall Street Journal as the #1 sales team in New York for three consecutive years, averaging a billion dollars in sales annually.

In this episode, Ryan discusses the most important principle around making money; the secrets to winning any negotiation; how to make more money; the next three steps you should take if you’re financially stuck; and so much more! It’s an exciting episode around money and success, and I’m honored to have Ryan here at the School of Greatness. So, buckle up as we begin the class.

Who is Ryan Serhant?

Ryan Serhant is the founder and CEO of Serhant, a leading real estate company in New York City. After struggling as an actor, he entered real estate in 2008 — in the midst of the subprime mortgage industry collapse —  as a solo agent without any experience in real estate selling. Today, he has more than 60 experienced agents under his leadership, and the Serhant Team has done more than $4 billion in sales and sold over 80 new development projects across Miami, Los Angeles, and New York. 

Ryan is also a media mogul who created Sell it Like Serhant, a digital real estate education course that teaches students how to master the art of sales, and succeed in any profession. He has starred in several Bravo TV shows, such as the Emmy-nominated Million Dollar Listing. Ryan appeared alongside Noami Watts, Ben Stiller, and Adam Driver in the film While We’re Young. Now, he produces a YouTube Channel series, Listed: a first-of-its-kind real estate media network that features property listings and lifestyle passions.

As a community leader, Ryan Serhant inspires lifestyle and sales communities through writing and education. What started as a weekly newsletter in 2019 is now a committed community of hundreds of thousands of followers and subscribers, and fans of his book Big Money Energy. He guides people on how to rule at work, dominate in life, and make millions by evolving into the best versions of themselves.

Ryan Serhant is also a bestselling author, and he shares his top sales secrets in his book, Sell It Like Serhant: How to Sell More, Earn More, and Become the Ultimate Sales. He has several audiobooks, as well. In his audiobook, Six Reasons Balls Fall and Kill Your Deal, he teaches people how to transform a dead deal into a big win. His other audiobook, Transform People into Clients, is a good resource for sellers who want to enhance their skills in selling. I’m happy to have Ryan Serhant here with us to personally share some of his secrets around money and the art of negotiation.

The Art of Winning Any Negotiation

Every successful deal is a result of excellent negotiation skills. Those skills are what sets a successful agent apart from the average salesperson. So it goes without saying: if you want to be successful in any sales career, you’ll need to learn the art of negotiation.

For Ryan Serhant, the Principle of Least Interest best describes how to negotiate and win a deal.

“The one in the relationship who has all the power is the one who cares the least. And that is true for any business negotiation, house negotiation, promotion negotiation — anything.” – Ryan Serhant

According to Ryan, you’ll have more power and control of the entire negotiation if you are the party with the least interest. An example of how to make this strategy work for you is to commit to a position and stick with it. Of course, by sticking with your position and being unwilling to move or compromise, you could risk losing the transaction — however, your willingness to lose that transaction immediately puts you in the position of being the party with the least interest, giving you the edge during the negotiation. So decide what you want, and commit to it.

In the same vein, remember that when you negotiate, you can really only go in two directions: either you negotiate up, or you negotiate down.

When negotiating down, for example, you might be in a buying position where you’re trying to get the best quality product or service for the least amount possible. If you win a down negotiation, you could save yourself and your team a lot of money.

“I did negotiate down. … [It] is, by far, the easiest because all you have to do is not want it. … You have to be willing to walk away. You have to be willing to be okay with loss and know there are other options.”  –Ryan Serhant

The principle of least interest can help you win a down negotiation as a buyer. You simply have to be willing to walk away from the negotiation if the team you’re trying to buy from refuses to make the sale at the price you want to pay. That willingness to walk away makes you the “least interested” party.

But wait — you can’t simply walk away from every negotiation at a loss, simply because you didn’t get your way, right?

Of course not. But, according to Ryan, if you have an abundant pipeline of people and companies you can do business with, you greatly improve your chances of winning both up and down negotiations more often.

Speaking of up negotiations, Ryan has some great insights about how we can increase our odds of making a high-end sale if we can convince our buyers that what we’re offering them is no longer a want, but a need

Here’s how Ryan explains it: 

“Negotiating somebody up is a different story. … It’s the fear of loss but on the total opposite side … [If] I got a good offer here, should I just take it and not go for more? But if you’re trying to get a buyer to pay more money, then you’re working on what we call the difference between a want and a need. So how do I make a want a need? …You have to then look for people’s points of fear. If he doesn’t get this, what triggers that fear? What’s he going to be afraid of?” –Ryan Serhant

In other words, there are two types of buyers — those who buy because they need what you’re selling, and those who buy because they want it. 

During the negotiation, you have to identify what type of buyer you are transacting with. It’s easier to negotiate if the buyer needs it. Because in that scenario, you have the edge. But if they are buying because they want it, they can easily walk away since they don’t need it. 

So, the challenge when you negotiate up is converting their wants into needs. To do that, pay attention to see if you can pinpoint things they might be afraid of (such as the consequences of purchasing a subpar product elsewhere) and fit those into the conversation. Get their fears on their mind.

How about you? What are your fears? If your fears include the fear of being financially stuck, you’re not alone.

The great news: Ryan has some really interesting insights into what you can do to get out of a financial rut.

“People want to work with people they like. Kindness will always take you further than any other emotion.” @RyanSerhant  

Ryan Serhant’s 3 Steps to Take if You’re Financially Stuck

We all have our share of experiences with the financial roller coaster rides. Sometimes we have plenty of money. Then, there are days we have barely enough, and other times when we are down and really broke. 

If you are feeling financially broke right now or you’re struggling with limited financial resources, and you don’t have the confidence and sufficient skills to get to the next level and “unstick” your finances, Ryan Serhant offers 3 steps for how to reach financial freedom. 

These three steps are doing a self-audit, figuring out who you want to be in the next two or five years, and having no fear of asking for help.

Step 1: Do a self-audit.

Are you making the absolute best use of your time? A self-audit can show you if you’re putting your time into things that are costing you money or making you money. It’s as simple as keeping track of your day-to-day activities, and figuring out if there’s anything you can cut to allow yourself more time to do the things you need to do to earn more. In Ryan’s case, that was to slow down acting and hand modelling so he could get his real estate license. 

“Think about the wealthiest people. They’re not going after the money every day. They’re trying to maximize their time. Time is your greatest asset. … Doing a self-audit is step one. And really focus on what you are doing with your time that is making you money. Could you do anything else?” –Ryan Serhant

Step 2: Make a five-year plan.

There are days where we just go with the flow, following our daily routine and not making any plans. If your day-to-day routine is making you the kind of money you want to make, then, of course, there’s nothing wrong with that! 

But without a clear picture of where you want to be — and who you want to be — in the next two to five years, you’ll always be at risk of getting stuck in a financial rut.

That’s why Ryan’s second step to getting financially unstuck is to think about where you want to be within the next five years.

“Think about the absolute best version of yourself five years from today. What is that person doing? And if you are living the greatest life ever [in that time], write that down, and then do the reverse math to figure out for yourself how you’re going to get there. Rip out that piece of paper and carry it in your pocket every day for the next year. … You will, by default, have predicted your future, and you will figure out how to make more money because you’re carrying it in your pocket, with something that you personally wrote down.” –Ryan Serhant

Step 3: Ask for help.

If you’re financially stuck, we can learn something from successful entrepreneurs like Ryan: They know how to ask for help, and leverage people. Specifically, they turn to people who know more than them who can teach them new things, and help lift them to higher places. They also turn to more skilled people than they are, who can help them handle or accomplish other important tasks related to growing a business. 

For you, that might mean asking for help from a financial advisor, or finding help with childcare so you can spend a little more time on things that can help you grow your wealth.

“… Do not wallow in self-despair and just wait — ask for help. And if all else fails, tell that person where you want to be in five years and say, ‘I think you can help me get there.’ … Ask for help and put yourself in positions that might be uncomfortable. They will pay you back.” –Ryan Serhant

Although these steps can definitely take some time and commitment, if you want to enjoy financial freedom, you’ll have no problem with them — and no problem raising your feet a little higher to jump over any barriers or obstacles you may run into along the way!

Why You Should Listen to this Ryan Serhant Podcast Episode Right Now…

During our conversation, Ryan gave us some priceless lessons on the art of negotiation and wealth-building that will surely add value to your quest for financial freedom. Listen to the full episode to get more insights from Ryan Serhant, and don’t forget to share it with anyone you know who’s as passionate about financial freedom as we are!

Visit Ryan Serhant’s official website and follow him on Facebook and Instagram for more valuable wisdom from him. Subscribe to his YouTube Channel for free resources and videos of virtual tours on his property listings, speaking engagements, and more tips on real estate selling.

I want to leave you all with this quote from John Maxwell, who said, “There are two kinds of people in this world: those who want to get things done, and those who don’t want to make mistakes.” 

Which one are you? Sometimes, the people who want to get things done are those who have no fear of failing. They are always the ones to make more mistakes.  That means we have to get over our fears and be willing to make mistakes and learn from them. Keep moving forward. It’s not about being perfect. It’s about getting things done in a powerful way that will move you closer to your dreams.

So, don’t be afraid to make mistakes. Just get it done and do something great every day.

To Greatness,

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Some Questions I Ask:

  • What is your greatest fear after going from nothing to having massive success?
  • What are the biggest lessons you’ve learned from clients?
  • If you could ask 3 questions to get information for negotiations?
  • Why are people bad at making money?
  • How do we change our mindset around money?
  • What is the difference between a rich and poor mindset?
  • Do you negotiate the same way with clients as you do your wife/daughter?
  • If someone is feeling financially limited, what are the 3 next steps they should take?
  • What would you say to your 50 year old self?

In this episode, you will learn:

  • The most important principle around making money.
  • The secrets to winning any negotiation. Ryan’s never talked about this before!
  • How to make more money at your current job.
  • How Ryan is able to close so many big deals in real estate.
  • The next 3 steps you should take if you’re feeling financially stuck.
  • Plus much more…
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