EP. 1998

10/26/26

Lewis Howes

โ€œThe tighter you grip what you think you are owed, the less room there is for it to arrive and come to you.โ€

Let Go of Expectations and Attract What You Desire | Lewis Howes

The thing you want most might be closer than you think, and the expectations you keep gripping could be what keeps pushing it away.

Lewis goes solo in this episode to walk through five expectations that block money, love and your peace. He starts with the silent contract so many hard workers carry: I did this, so Iโ€™m owed that.

He tells you about making zero dollars from his podcast for the first year, and about sleeping on his sisterโ€™s couch when a mentor told him, โ€œMoney comes to you when youโ€™re ready for it.โ€ He also explains why he asked his wife Martha to start therapy at the very beginning of their relationship, and how she answered, โ€œThat sounds exciting.โ€

Youโ€™ll hear why comparing your year one to someone elseโ€™s year ten will wreck your peace, and why a simple โ€œWould you be willing to…โ€ can fix relationships that silent hints keep breaking. Thereโ€™s also the goal he has chased for eight years without hitting it, and what changed once he stopped demanding a timeline for it.

Afterward you may find yourself writing down your own silent contracts and checking the numbers less. You might ask someone for what you actually need, too, while you keep doing the work and keep your standard high.

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โ€œYou're allowed to want big things. A love that feels like home, a business that gives you more freedom, a body and your health that you can feel proud of, a life that feels like it's yours on your terms. I'm telling you, want it all. Desire it all.โ€ – Lewis Howes
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And now let’s jump into episode 1998 of The School of Greatness!

Some Questions I Ask:

  • Why do some of the hardest working people you know, and maybe it’s yourself also, why do they or you still feel like you’re stuck?
  • Why can you be making real progress in your life and still feel like you’re falling behind?
  • Why do so many relationships fall apart over things that nobody ever said out loud?
  • What did you do, and what do you believe you are owed from the actions you did?
  • Why do people walk right past the exact thing that they’ve been asking for?
  • Am I just settling for the scraps if I don’t set an expectation?
  • Why do so many good things show up right after people stop chasing them?

In this episode, you will learn:

  • Run the silent contracts exercise to expose the hidden โ€œIโ€™m owedโ€ thoughts ending relationships
  • Replace expectations with the โ€œWould you be willing toโ€ ask so people choose yes
  • Drop made-up timelines that make real progress still feel like falling behind
  • Track your daily effort instead of the numbers to escape comparison and resentment
  • Release neediness so the opportunities and people you want can finally find you
  • Plus much more…
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