EP. 1869

12/29/25

Vanessa Van Edwards

โ€œYour words have power. Your cues have power. Donโ€™t waste them.โ€

Stop Faking Confidence: Master These Cues Instead

Vanessa Van Edwards shares research showing that brilliant people lose opportunities not because they lack intelligence, but because they under-signal their warmth and competence. She reveals how your body language, vocal tone, and word choice are either enrolling people in your vision or pushing them away without you realizing it. The science proves that charisma isn’t about being the loudest person in the roomโ€”it’s about balancing trust signals with capability signals in every interaction. You’ll learn why faking confidence always leaks through danger zone cues and how authentic presence creates the chemical reactions that make people want to work with you. These aren’t tricks to manipulateโ€”they’re tools to help you show up as your most genuine, powerful self so your best ideas finally get the attention they deserve.

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Some Questions I Ask:

  • Can you talk to me the difference between charisma and narcissism?
  • How do you control someone else’s cues?
  • Is it important to be charismatic? Is it valuable and more important to be charismatic versus less charismatic?
  • So how do we create more trust and reliability instantly?
  • What happens if we don’t use our hand gestures at all in a conversation, in a pitch, whatever, or not?
  • What are the three most powerful cues? Body language cues of leaders?
  • What’s been the charisma strategy that you’ve learned in the last six months that has brought some new attention to your life?
  • What happens if, let’s just say there’s a person you don’t like and you don’t like being nice toโ€”they’re just not my personโ€”is it better to be inauthentic and lie and act nice around this person?

In this episode, you will learn:

  • Break through the social awkwardness holding you back by labeling rejection cues before they hijack your nervous system
  • Discover why hand gestures carry more weight than your actual words and how hiding your hands destroys trust instantly
  • Master the perfect balance between warmth and competence that separates forgettable professionals from magnetic leaders
  • Understand how your voice tone changes people’s physiology within seconds and makes them question or believe everything you say
  • Transform your emails and presentations using achievement-oriented words that double motivation and performance in others
  • Plus much more…

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