Step #1: Don’t worry about the outcome. This is huge. It’s often so hard to do because we set expectations and goals for ourselves. But don’t forget to be proud of the efforts too, not just the outcome. You’re going to be so much more grateful and appreciative and take the pressure off of that moment.
Step #2: Don’t miss the moment because you’re thinking too much about everything that comes with it. .When you have a big speech, when you’ve got a book launch, or any other big moment coming up, you want to soak it in. You want to soak in the whole week. You want to enjoy it. You gotta appreciate it and not just say, “Okay, we’ve reached it — onto the next thing” or, “It wasn’t what I wanted it to be.” You gotta be present with the moment.
Step #3: Trust the timing of where you’re at. Understand that you’re exactly where you need to be. This is often really hard — especially when you’re in a tough spot. I remember when I was broke, sleeping on my sister’s couch, and I had a mentor in Columbus, Ohio, and I was like, “Man, I could really use some money right now.” And he said, “Money comes to you when you’re ready for it. And I was like, “I feel like I’m really ready to make some money.” And at that moment, I wasn’t. I didn’t have the skills, the tools, the knowledge, or the wisdom on how to manage that success at that moment. So the right success comes to you when you’re ready for it. That’s what you’ve always got to be learning and growing and trust the timing of your life.
Step #4: Celebrate how far you’ve come. Even if you’re not where you want to be. Even if the outcome isn’t perfect, celebrate, don’t let the expectation of an outcome make you the moment, make a memory out of a milestone. You can’t be so caught up in moving forward, that you miss celebrating the present.
I hope these four steps will support you in your journey so that you don’t have the fear of success! This fear can cripple so many people from actually putting out their gifts in the world. And you are too talented, my friend. You are too gifted. You are too powerful, and you should never let the fear of success hold you back from putting out what you want in the world. I hope this episode emboldens you!
Also, heads up: We’re doing something very special with Episode 1000. We’re doing a big giveaway with some cash prizes, iPhone, iPads, and laptops, all that stuff — so make sure you don’t miss that on Monday!
But for now, join me on Episode 999 to learn how to conquer the fear of success!
