Do you have limiting thoughts and beliefs around success?
The truth is, that everyone has experienced limiting beliefs and self-doubt at some point in their lives. These are the beliefs that keep us from achieving our goals or reaching our full potential. They keep us in a fear-based mindset, and they can be very tough to overcome. But it is definitely possible if you have the right mindset and are willing to work hard!
Don’t give up on your dreams just because of a few doubts. Don’t give up because you’re afraid of failure. Start overcoming those limitations today! — You’ll be glad you did.
Our guest today is the perfect person to help us navigate through limiting beliefs and achieve self-acceptance. We have the inspiring Lilly Singh in the house! She is one of the biggest stars & internet personalities, earning millions of dollars from her YouTube channel.
But despite her huge successes, there was still a time when she felt lost and aimless, both professionally and personally. Today, she’s going to open up and share the key to living a fulfilling life, what is your foundation, how to approach failure, and so much more. It’s an exciting episode, so buckle up and let the class begin.
Lilly Singh is a former talk show host of A Little Late with Lilly Singh and a TV personality appearing in Dreamworks animated comedy Bad Guys. She also appeared on television, opposite Shay Mitchell in the second season of the Hulu show Dollface.
She is also a famous YouTuber with 14.7 million subscribers and more than three billion views. In 2016, the Forbes list of the world’s highest-paid YouTubers ranked Lilly Singh third in the list, with reported earnings of $7.5 million. In the following year, she was ranked tenth on the same list with reported earnings of $10.5 million. In 2019, she was included in the Forbes list of 40 most powerful people in comedy.
Lilly Singh is also a New York Times bestselling author of the book, How to Be a Bawse: A Guide to Conquering Life. Her second book, Be a Triangle: How I Went from Being Lost to Getting My Life into Shape was also a huge success. She won several awards, including an MTV Fandom Award, two Teen Choice Awards, a People’s Choice Award, and four Streamy Awards.
While Lilly leads a highly successful and fulfilling life, it didn’t always use to be that way. She faced several challenges and obstacles, and today, we get to hear her story and learn how she flipped her mindset and achieved greatness.
Despite what you may see on social media, no one has a perfect life. We all go through hard times, make mistakes, and have to learn how to cope — that process is messy, awkward, and anything but Instagram-ready. But if you want to live a fulfilling life, you need to understand what makes you truly happy.
For some people, the key to happiness is love. For others, it is creative success or living in financial freedom. Each of us has a key to living a fulfilling life, and once you unlock it, the possibilities are endless. For Lilly Singh, the key was to build a strong foundation that didn’t falter, no matter what was going on in her life.
“The definition of a fulfilling life is to build a foundation, … to build a strong foundation for your life that actually does not teeter based on what is actually happening in your life.” – Lilly Singh
We all go through ups and downs in life. It’s how we handle these situations that determine our character and the strength of our foundation. No matter what life throws your way, make sure to always keep your head up and build a strong foundation that can’t be shaken by the outside world.
“When I have a bad day, … I felt like I changed to my core, like who I was as a person changed, my belief system changed, [and] how I treated myself changed. And that’s a very dangerous place to live — thinking that I am just gonna make myself completely vulnerable to all external forces. So no matter what happens in my day, I will just teeter in the direction that the world is making. — I don’t wanna live in that place. So what I mean by building a strong foundation is building a safe place in my mind that I can return to, regardless of what’s happening in my day. … [A safe place] where if you succeed tomorrow, if you fail tomorrow, you still have a safe place to return to where none of those things matter.” – Lilly Singh
Have you ever felt like your life is falling apart? Maybe a long-term relationship ended, you lost your job, or a family member passed away. How do you rebuild your life after the dust settles?
Rebuilding is not an easy task. It takes time, dedication, and most importantly, a strong foundation. Without that solid base, it is only a matter of time before everything crumbles down again.
The same principle applies when it comes to our personal lives. If we don’t have a strong foundation, we are doomed to repeat the same mistakes over and over again, and be easily swayed or affected by what others are saying. It’s important to have a safe place where you can return to, no matter what life throws your way.
So — what is your foundation? That’s a question you’ll have to answer for yourself, but Lilly defines her foundation into four core pillars:
“A foundation for me is a relationship to yourself, a relationship to the universe, understanding distraction, and implementing designs. These are the four things I repeat to myself every single day. [In] any conflict, I look at through that lens — that is the foundation of my triangle. … I think that all conflicts can be looked at through these four things, and this is the foundation of every single person’s triangle is what I believe.” – Lilly Singh
When you have a strong relationship with yourself, it sets the tone for all other relationships in your life. You will be more confident and authentic, and you can better trust your own intuition and judgment. So take some time to get to know yourself, figure out what makes you happy, and build that foundation strong!
When it comes to success, there’s one thing that is for sure — failure is inevitable. No matter how hard we try, or how much we plan, things will go wrong along the way. The key is not to let failure get us down because it doesn’t define who we are as a person. Instead, embrace it as one of the many opportunities to learn and grow.
“I just literally always define myself by external things. … Success or failure … does not reflect on you as a person. This is not your value. … I would just remind myself that failure or a low rating is just a little thing. A low rating [in my book] is not a low rating for me as a human. It is that project. … It is not me. I am not that thing, [and] that thing is just something I did.” – Lilly Singh
We all make mistakes. It’s a part of life. But, what really matters is how we react to those failures. Do we let them define us? Or do we use them as motivation to do better next time? Failure isn’t fun, but it’s a part of life. And it doesn’t have to define who you are as a person. You can pick yourself up, learn from your mistakes, and try again.
Every great person has experienced great failure. Don’t limit yourself by never trying — take a risk and be open to relearning things you thought you already understood.
Guys, this interview is jam-packed with so many words of wisdom from Lilly Singh. Listen to the full episode for more, and don’t forget to share the episode with someone who needs to hear it: You could change someone’s life.
Don’t forget to follow Lilly on social media. She’s on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. Check out her popular YouTube channel, as well, and find out for yourself why she has millions of subscribers worldwide. You’ll be amazed by the value she shared through her videos. If you want to get hold of a copy of her bestselling book, check out her website for more details about her latest offers.
I want to acknowledge Lilly for being a wonderful person, and continuously making an impact on other people’s lives. Her definition of greatness is something you need to remember.
“[Greatness is] is someone who actively puts the work into discovering their purpose. Whatever that purpose is, I don’t care if it’s making great ice cream or changing the world, whatever your purpose is, you put the work into learning why you’re here and what you can uniquely offer. I think that is greatness because I think people should impact the world in only a way they can. But so often we don’t put the energy into figuring out what that way is.” – Lilly Singh
Most people think that greatness is something that they are just born with. They believe that you are either born a genius, or you’re not. That’s not true at all. Geniuses are made, not born. And the same goes for greatness. It’s something that you have to actively put the work into discovering.
Friends, find your purpose in life and put all of your effort towards reaching it. It won’t be easy, but don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do something great because you can.
If no one’s told you lately, let me remind you that you are loved, you are worthy, and you matter. You know what time it is — it’s time to go out there and do something great!