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Matthew Hussey, Esther Perel, DeVon Franklin, Dr. Shefali, Stephan Speaks

The 5 Red Flags In Dating That You Should Never Ignore!


We’ve all been there. We’re in the middle of a relationship that we really want to work. Then, eventually when things come to an end, we look back and wonder how in the world we didn’t see the signs that this person wasn’t the right match for us sooner? How did we miss all the red flags that were so easy to see when it was all said and done?

When you’re in the middle of a relationship, it can be difficult to take a step back and look at things objectively. We all want love, so when we’re involved with the wrong person our minds will naturally try to make the situation better for us. 

This is why I think it’s so important to take a long look at what you’re looking for in a long-term partner BEFORE you jump into another relationship or start seriously dating anyone else. 

This is dating with intention. Finding the right match for you when it comes to a romantic partner should be something you’re as intentional about as you are with all the other areas of your life: career, health & wellness, dreams, goals, purpose, and all the rest. And yet, so often, we take a nonchalant or “go with the flow” approach to dating. 

That’s why I wanted to bring together some of my favorite guests on the topic of relationships to explain the 5 major red flags we should never ignore when dating. We’ve gotten great feedback on our other mashup episodes, so I really think you’ll gain a lot of value from it. You’ll hear from Matthew Hussey, Esther Perel, DeVon Franklin, Dr. Shefali, and Stephan Speaks. Let’s get to it!

“Saying ‘I do’ is not a magic wand.” @devonfranklin  

Matthew Hussey – Matthew Hussey is a speaker, New York Times Bestselling author, columnist for Cosmopolitan Magazine, and dating expert on ABC’s digital series What To Text Him Back.  His corporate clients include Hugo Boss, The Perfume Shop, Virgin Gyms, Procter & Gamble, Bare Escentuals, U.S. legal giant Weil Gotshal & Manges, and global management consultants Accenture. 50,000 women have attended his live events and he has reached over 10 million online.

Esther Perel – Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she helms a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world.

Her celebrated TED talks have garnered more than 20 million views and her international bestseller Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence became a global phenomenon translated into 25 languages. Her newest book is the New York Times bestseller The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity (HarperCollins). Esther is also an executive producer and host of the popular podcast Where Should We Begin? Learn more at or by following @EstherPerelOfficial on Instagram.

DeVon Franklin – DeVon Franklin is a media multi-hyphenate. As an award-winning producer, New York Times best-selling author and renowned motivational speaker he has made a commitment to inspire people around the world through entertainment. DeVon is a force in the media and has become a leading authority on inspiration, spiritual wellness and personal development. He is the producer of multiple hit films and the author of The Truth About Men, The Success Commandments, The Wait (co-authored with his wife Meagan Good), and Produced by Faith.

Dr. ShefaliDr. Shefali received her doctorate in clinical psychology from Columbia University. Specializing in the integration of Western psychology and Eastern philosophy, she brings together the best of both worlds for her clients. She is an expert in family dynamics and personal development, teaching courses around the globe. She has written four books, three of which are New York Times best-sellers, including her two landmark books The Conscious Parent and The Awakened Family.

Stephan SpeaksStephan Labossiere is a man on a mission, and that mission is to make relationships happier and more fulfilling. As a certified relationship coach, a speaker and author, Stephan seizes every opportunity to help both men and women overcome the challenges that hinder their relationships.

From understanding the opposite sex, to navigating the paths and avoiding the pitfalls of relationships and self growth, Stephan’s relationship advice and insight helps countless individuals achieve an authentically amazing life. Stephan empowers millions to take charge of the difficult situations standing in the way of the life and love they seek and to make impactful changes on a daily basis.

“We need to stop competing with each other. We need to celebrate each other. We need to stop putting on the false roles when we’re with each other.” @DrShefali  

Some Questions I Ask:

  • What’s the biggest mistake people make today when trying to find their soulmate?
  • How many values do you need to have in common with your partner?
  • Should we lower our expectations or find someone that meets ours?
  • Why does it seem like a struggle for men to be okay with one relationship?
  • How do you know when you’re in the right relationship?

In this episode, you will learn:

  • The biggest mistake you’re most likely making in your relationship with Relationship Expert Matthew Hussey.
  • Why it’s so important for your values to match with Psychotherapist Esther Perel.
  • How to understand the difference between love and lust with Relationship Expert DeVon Franklin.
  • How to make sure you’re not in the wrong relationship and how to begin a new relationship with Psychologist Dr. Shefali
  • How to communicate and understand your partner better in order to prevent arguments and a break up with Relationship Expert Stephan Speaks.
  • Plus much more…

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