Baya Voce opens up about the hidden cost of living in a world that promises everything without friction while our relationships demand the exact opposite. She shares the counterintuitive truth that bending over backwards in relationships isn’t love, it’s self-abandonment, and explains why most couples fail not because they fight, but because they never learned to repair properly. Through raw personal stories and research-backed frameworks, Baya breaks down the difference between accepting someone’s limitations and enabling their dysfunction. This conversation will shift how you think about conflict forever, giving you practical tools to turn your messiest relationship moments into opportunities for genuine intimacy and growth.
Heal First, Love Better: The Repair Framework That Changes Everything
"The real world of your relationship requires friction. So now we're living in a world where more and more we're expecting frictionless experiences over here in the virtual world, but what we actually need and now it doesn't match up with what's happening in the real world."
And now let’s jump into episode 1839 of The School of Greatness!
Some Questions I Ask:
- Then what would you say then are the three signs that someone doesn’t have good boundaries in a relationship?
- What is, what is disillusionment in relationship?
- Do I want to be in this relationship? Is this the Disney fairyland romantic story that I envisioned living myself in?
- Do I accept this life? Or do I move on? Can I accept the relationship and the person I’ve chosen to be with?
- So I’m curious then, where do you think your life would be in the future if you allowed yourself to reflect and see if you still needed healing and allowed yourself to heal from all the male relationship energy that you’ve experienced or the lack of healthy relationship with men that you’ve experienced, where do you think your relationship with yourself would be in the future?
In this episode, you will learn:
- Discover why your nervous system needs friction to build resilience and how avoiding small conflicts actually creates bigger ones later
- Transform your relationship arguments using the repair framework that stops the blame cycle before it spirals
- Learn the critical difference between change and effort in partnerships and why confusing them keeps you stuck in resentment
- Break free from the cultural myth that bending over backwards equals love and start setting boundaries without guilt
- Master the art of staying present during emotional reactions instead of running away or people-pleasing your way through conflict
- Plus much more…
