Esther Perel

The Quality of Your Relationships Determines the Quality of Your Life

Are your relationships thriving or surviving?

Relationships are one of the most important things we have in this life. They can bring so much joy but they can also be extremely messy. While healthy relationships foster love, commitment, and intimacy, toxic relationships create resentment, distrust, and bad habits.

This doesn’t just go for romantic relationships either. We are constantly engaging in relationships, whether it be on the commute to work, in the office, or at the dinner table with the family. Every day, we form relational habits.

Ultimately, when the relationships in our lives are strained, the quality of our life feels lacking. If you’re in a toxic relationship with your coworker, your partner, or even your family, you’re not going to be happy.

Even the healthiest of relationships go through difficult times. It’s not all rainbows and butterflies. At some point, there will be suffering. Maybe your partner lied to you. Maybe your coworker went behind your back. Maybe your children disrespect you. All these things are real problems, but what matters is that we know how to work through the hard places to reach the other side.

That’s why I’ve got the leading expert on modern relationships, Esther Perel, on the podcast today.

“Are you looking for a love story or are you looking for a life story?” @EstherPerel

Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Her celebrated TED talks have garnered more than 20 million views, and she travels the world to speak about love, sex, intimacy, and infidelity. She is the host of the popular podcast Where Should We Begin? in which she conducts therapy sessions with real couples.

Recently Esther just came out with a new podcast called How’s Work?. In this podcast, Esther addresses workplace relationships, conflicts, and business negotiations via therapy sessions with coworkers and colleagues. How’s Work? is available on Spotify and wherever you get your podcasts!

The first time Esther Perel came on the podcast, she blew me away with her insights about love and intimacy. (A few hundred thousand downloads of that episode later and I know I’m not the only one!). When I had her at the Summit of Greatness, people booed me as I had to wrap up our Q&A — they wanted to hear more.

She truly is the expert on modern relationships, and I was so excited to learn about what she had to say about relationships in the workplace.

If you want to learn more about creating healthy workplace relationships, resolving conflict, and more about fostering intimate relationships with your partner, then tune into Episode 929 to hear from the queen of relationships herself, Esther Perel.

“You don’t learn to suffer less. You learn to suffer differently.” @EstherPerel

Some Questions I Ask:

Can we choose to be in suffering or not? (0:30)
Can you learn to suffer less over time? (4:24)
When was the last time you suffered the deepest? (5:32)
Why are relationships seemingly the most hard for people when they are what we need most? (8:32)
How many relationships are thriving after decades of existing? (17:47)
How many values do you need to have in common with your life partner? (27:35)

In this episode, you will learn:

What helps us in times of suffering (14:30)
The 3 ways to make your relationship successful (22:18)
What to focus on if you are single and looking to be in a relationship (24:40)
What determines the success of a relationship day to day (36:01)
Why it’s important to acknowledge the good in your co-workers (41:46)
Why you must deal with your own past in order to deal with your relationship problems at work (50:10)
Plus much more…