A lot of people I know have a greatness inside of them, but there’s something holding them back. That thing is their self esteem.
Without self esteem, you can be the best in the world, but no one will ever know because you’ll be too afraid to put yourself out there.
This can be one of the hardest things to overcome, but honestly there’s an easy solution to start building your confidence – style.
Changing the way you look will give you an instant feeling of change, and to go more into it I wanted to bring you a good friend of mine who knows this subject more than anyone else: Stacy London.
You may know Stacy from the shows What Not to Wear, Access Hollywood, and even the Today Show.
Her knowledge of style has helped change people’s lives.
Learn what style can do for you, on Episode 660.
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Stacy London has become a good friend of mine over the last year, and she started her career as a fashion editor at Vogue, and transitioned into being a stylist for celebrities and designers. She moved into television by co-hosting ‘What Not To Wear’, on TLC, with Clinton Kelly, and doing fashion reporting for Access Hollywood, The Early Show, and The Today Show.
Stacy London: But I do think, in so many ways, the world is so screwed up right now, and in so many ways I think there’s all this beauty coming to the fore, because you have an entire generation of people who are starting to think differently about the world and about themselves and that starting with an individual actually does have a ripple effect into a community, and communities have a ripple effect into organisations, and organisations have a ripple effect into places all over the world.
And it’s the first time that we’re connecting those dots, so, as far as we’ve come technologically, I think, in a lot of ways, we are finally spiritually connecting. And I don’t mean that in a religious sense, I mean that in a humanist sense.
Lewis Howes: Consciously, yeah. Interesting. If I was able to give you enough money to solve one problem or one challenge in the world, and I was, like, “Here’s a lump sum,” however much it takes that’s going to solve and cure something, what would you put that money towards?
Stacy London: Low self-esteem. I mean, I could say I’d love to cure cancer, but I think that…
Lewis Howes: Low self-esteem maybe causes a lot of cancer for people, too.
Stacy London: Exactly. It also causes depression and suicide and all sorts of things, but just, forget about the extremes of all of that, right? Low self-esteem, if somebody felt just that little bit better about themselves every day, imagine what they could do! Imagine the things that people don’t do, because they’re afraid, or they’re ashamed.
And if you could get rid of fear and shame in someone and make them value themselves more, I feel like they would be unstoppable.
Lewis Howes: Do you think style helps with increasing self-esteem?
Stacy London: Yes, I do. And I think I would like to say I am one of the pioneers of at least talking about it in that way.
Lewis Howes: Yes, as the mechanism for helping the process.
Stacy London: Right! I’m not a psychologist, I can only lend my experience, my life experience to what I know to be true and the conversations that I’ve had with people, about how they feel. What I love about style is that it is the quickest, fastest, easiest way for somebody to see themselves differently, because it’s based on what you see. And that triggers the brain in a really funny way.
Lewis Howes: It doesn’t take months to transform, like health or something else, you can do it in ten minutes.
Stacy London: Exactly. Whereas changing your diet and starting an exercise regime a lot of the time feels punishing, style doesn’t have to feel that way. It’s a quick fix; I like to think of it, not as a quick fix like, “I’m just going to have this shot of heroin,” and then going down the wrong path and not doing anything.
I like to think of it as a short cut to believing that you can do other things. I mean, I can’t tell you, there are so many stories from ‘What Not To Wear’, that it was never about what happened on the show, it’s what happened to these people after. They would leave bad marriages, they would have better relationships with their kids, they would get promoted, they would leave bad jobs.
They thought so differently about what they were able to accomplish, based on the fact that they just didn’t think they could even rock a short haircut.
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