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Nick Viall

The #1 Dating Mistake That's Keeping You Single | Nick Viall

"Sometimes your most painful moments in the present become your best memories in the future because you look back and you realize what you overcome."

Today we’re excited to welcome a special guest who’s no stranger to the spotlight of love and relationships — Nick Viall. An LA-based award-winning podcast host, best-selling author, entrepreneur, and a familiar face from ABC’s “The Bachelor,” Nick has carved a niche for himself as a contemporary voice in the world of dating advice. His podcast, “The Viall Files,” is a treasure trove of insights on relationships and pop culture, amassing over 100 million downloads.

"What's the point of being in a relationship if they don't make you feel loved?" @nickviall  

And now let’s jump into episode 1565 of The School of Greatness!

"No one will lie to you more than yourself." @nickviall  

Some Questions I Ask:

  • If you could go back to twenty year old you, and give yourself 3 pieces of advice?
  • What is the difference between validation and love?
  • How did you make a switch internally from your days on The Bachelor to now where you don’t have to seek validation and leading with your ego?
  • When did you finally let go of your first relationship after it had ended?
  • What made you decide to go on The Bachelor?
  • What would you say to yourself and to anyone going through a bad breakup, 3 key things to go through it with more grace?
  • What does the pain of breakups, heartbreak mean most of the time?
  • What’s the best relationship advice you’ve ever received?
  • What’s your thoughts on if people should be public with their relationship?
  • Why do a lot of women loved to be posted on instagram?
  • What is the risk of a woman wanting a man to consistently post about them on instagram?
  • If there’s a woman coming to you for advice, and wants to know why their guy isn’t posting about them on social media, what would you say?
  • Who do you think cheat more today, men or women?
  • If you were coaching a woman that was going to date yourself 20 years ago, What would be the 3 biggest red flags you would warn her about?
  • You mentioned this abandonment fear, where did that come from?
  • How many times did you get broken up with versus you breaking up?
  • Can you truly be loved and accepted by someone else if you don’t truly learn to love yourself?
  • Why do you think so many people settle in relationships for something they know is not right for them?
  • What do you really want her (your child) to know growing up?
  • How do you think a father can teach their daughter how to feel loved and valued without needing a toxic man to chase them?
  • What do you think needs to die inside of you before your daughter is born for you to be the best father you can be?
  • Where do you think things will be in the dating world 20 years from now?
  • Do you think it’s possible for a woman to be in sex work and also be in a healthy, loving relationship?
  • What do you think a man or a woman who has some attention from fame or success should be aware of when entering into a new relationship?
  • In 20 years from now what will you look back on and be most proud of?

In this episode, you will learn:

  • How to distinguish between seeking validation and experiencing true love.
  • Strategies for moving on gracefully from a relationship and overcoming heartbreak.
  • Insights into the dynamics of social media’s impact on love.
  • The importance of self-love in attracting and maintaining healthy relationships.
  • Future predictions for the dating world and advice for maintaining authenticity in relationships.
  • Plus much more…

Show Notes:

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