Carl Lentz

"I Gaslit My Wife For Years" How to Heal a Relationship After Infidelity & Addiction

"The biggest shame for me was lying to my wife. It suffocated me, but I've learned that shame doesn't have to hold you forever."

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For those familiar with Carl Lentz’s history, you know about the scandal that led to his dismissal from Hillsong Church a few years ago. If you’re wondering why I chose to feature him on an episode of The School of Greatness, I want to assure you that my goal isn’t to place him on a pedestal. Instead, I want to illuminate the very real journey of finding healing after failure and heartbreak.

This conversation will be approached with care and transparency because I know many of you have faced similar challenges or are still in the process of healing from something similar. I hope you’ll join us for this important discussion.

"You can't outrun yourself. No matter how far you go, your past will always catch up. True freedom comes from facing it head-on." @CarlLentz

And now let’s jump into episode 1649 of The School of Greatness!

"I've realized that my life isn't about proving myself to others. It's about being honest and living with integrity, regardless of what people think."@CarlLentz

Some Questions I Ask:

“With the secrets, the scandal, and the suffering you’ve talked about, what was the biggest shame you lived with, and is there any shame you still carry today?”
“Can you give a brief context of who you were before the scandal and breakdown, and what happened to bring about the fallout?”
“How did you navigate the unraveling of everyone questioning you, some of your closest friends leaving you, and feeling betrayed?”
“What was it like trying to rebuild your marriage and regain your wife’s trust after everything that happened?”
“How have you been able to repair the relationship with yourself, especially after feeling like you were living a lie for so long?”
“What advice do you have for other public figures or leaders who are struggling with similar issues of integrity and authenticity?”
“How have you dealt with the shame and pain of knowing you’ve hurt so many people, including those who looked up to you as a spiritual leader?”
“How did you find the strength to keep going, even when you felt like giving up or ending your life?”
“What has your journey taught you about the importance of honesty and vulnerability in personal and professional life?”
“How do you and Laura navigate the complexities of intimacy and trust in your relationship now, after everything that has happened?”

In this episode, you will learn:

The difference between shame and guilt, and how each impacts personal growth.
Carl Lentz’s personal experience with infidelity and its consequences on his life and career.
The process of rebuilding trust and intimacy in a marriage after betrayal.
The importance of personal healing and self-awareness in overcoming past traumas.
How to maintain integrity and transparency in leadership roles.
Plus much more…

Show Notes:

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MUSIC CREDIT

Kaibu by Killercats

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Carl Lentz

"I Gaslit My Wife For Years" How to Heal a Relationship After Infidelity & Addiction

"The biggest shame for me was lying to my wife. It suffocated me, but I've learned that shame doesn't have to hold you forever."

"You can't outrun yourself. No matter how far you go, your past will always catch up. True freedom comes from facing it head-on." @CarlLentz