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Neil Strauss

How To Know They'll Cheat on You- Cheating Expert Reveals Warning Signs!

"Our wounds happened in our relationship, right? Our relationship with our parents, they're relational. So we can heal them in healthy, trusting relationships as well."

Today, Lewis sits down with best-selling author Neil Strauss to explore the complex world of relationships, infidelity, and how to spot a manipulator. Strauss opens up about his own journey from infidelity to intimacy rehab, sharing powerful lessons on rebuilding trust and nurturing secure connections. He delves into the psychology behind cheating and the signs that can indicate whether a partner might be unfaithful. Strauss provides a candid look into his most secure and insecure moments in adulthood, discusses the challenges of monogamy, and reveals the keys to a healthy relationship. Drawing from his experience interviewing extreme personalities, he sheds light on persuasion, manipulation, and how to identify red flags in potential partners. 

After today’s episode, be sure to check out Neil’s new podcast, To Die For!

"If you're not healthy in one kind of relationship, you're not healthy in another kind of relationship. Get healthy and secure in yourself and any kind of relationship will work."- Neil Strauss  

And now let’s jump into episode 1614 of The School of Greatness! 

"If you want to change your relationship, something is wrong, the only thing you have control over is yourself. If you change yourself, the whole system changes and gets better. So that's literally all you have to do to make your relationship better is actually change yourself and stop trying to get someone else to change."- Neil Strauss  

Some Questions I Ask:

  • Do you think someone can be in a long-term, monogamous relationship after they’ve cheated?
  • When getting into a relationship, are there any signs you should look out for that someone might be a cheater?
  • How many people do you think cheat in a relationship one time, then repair the relationship, then cheat again?
  • Where are you now in relationships in what is a loving and healthy way to be in a relationship?
  • Have you seen any examples of couples in a long term, healthy, open relationship who are together and thriving perhaps even with kids?
  • What do you think are the keys of a happy, healthy monogamous relationship?
  • When was the most secure time of your adult life and the most insecure time of your adult life?
  • How long were you in your committed relationship and how long into it did you cheat?
  • What do you think are the main reasons a guy or girl might cheat?
  • Why is it so hard for people to look within and try to change the things that may be broken they need improvement on?
  • What were the 3 main takeaways you got from intimacy rehab?
  • What was it like when you were able to see little Neil in front of you?
  • Why do you think you were so fascinated with the most extreme personalities in the world?
  • If you are entering a relationship what are the signs you might be entering it with a cheater?
  • What have you learned about persuasion, manipulation, and influence over your time of interviewing extreme personalities?
  • What did the training entail for the woman on your podcast who was a Russian spy?
  • How do men know if women are truly falling for them or are trying to manipulate them?
  • Why do you feel like people are afraid to commit in relationships?
  • What were your 3 biggest takeaways about the human mind from interviewing the Russian spy on your podcast?

In this episode, you will learn:

  • How to identify red flags that suggest a partner might be unfaithful.
  • The essential principles for fostering trust and intimacy.
  • Why commitment can be challenging and strategies for overcoming fears.
  • Insights from Neil Strauss’s journey through intimacy rehab.
  • How to spot manipulation and protect yourself in relationships.
  • Plus much more…

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