New book from NYT bestselling author Lewis Howes is now available!

New book from NYT bestselling author Lewis Howes is now available!


Dr. Nicole LePera

Become a MAGNET to Love (Do THIS to Change EVERYTHING Before 2024!) | Dr. Nicole LePera

Lewis welcomes Dr. Nicole LePera, renowned author of the #1 New York Times bestsellers “How To Do The Work” and “How to Meet Your Self” Workbook. Dr. LePera, the creator of the #SelfHealers movement, discusses her latest book, “How to Be the Love You Seek,” offering invaluable insights into healing relationships starting with oneself. She highlights the significance of understanding past traumas and how they shape current relationship dynamics, emphasizing the importance of self-love, emotional resilience, and cultivating healthy connections.


Relationships have always been essential to human survival. Our bodies and brains are programmed to seek out connection, whether familial, romantic, or platonic. And yet, these vital bonds are often at the root of our deepest suffering. While our hearts are primed for compassionate connection, our nervous systems—which store all our past hurts and disappointments—are wired for threat and negativity.


For decades, leading relationship advice has maintained that successful relationships require a specific compromise—that we must change our authentic expression to better meet the needs of others, and vice versa. It may sound reasonable in theory, but as Dr. LePera explains, this approach is nothing less than a recipe for a lifetime of resentment.


Buy her new book How to Be the Love You Seek: Break Cycles, Find Peace, and Heal Your Relationships

“The nervous system and the heart we can think of are the control center for the rest of what the body is doing." @Theholisticpsyc  

And now let’s jump into episode 1530 of The School of Greatness!

"To build self love means to build space for the self, to recommit to caring for ourself so that over time we can actually attune to our heart and be… a compassionate, caring individual." @Theholisticpsyc  

Some Questions I Ask:

  • Reprogramming our brains to receive love is a transformative process. What are some COMMON PATTERNS or beliefs that hinder our ability to receive love, and how can we begin to shift them?
  • In a world where EXTERNAL VALIDATION often takes precedence, how can individuals cultivate a strong sense of self-love and self-worth that isn’t dependent on others’ opinions or approval
  • The idea of self-love can sometimes be MISUNDERSTOOD or seen AS SELFISH. How can we clarify the distinction between self-love and selfishness, and why is it essential to prioritize self-love?
  • How can SETTING HEALTHY BOUNDARIES contribute to self-love, and what steps can individuals take to establish them?
  • How can individuals identify and overcome SELF-SABOTAGING behaviors when it comes to self-love and relationships?
  • Many listeners may be curious about practical techniques for self-love. Are there specific DAILY EXERCISES or practices you recommend to help individuals start their journey towards self-love?
  • You’ve spoken about the importance of SELF-COMPASSION. How can individuals cultivate self-compassion, especially during challenging times, and how does it contribute to the process of reprogramming our brains?
  • We often carry past traumas and wounds that impact our ability to love ourselves. How can individuals identify and heal these emotional scars to open themselves up to love more fully?

In this episode, you will learn:

  • The difference between self-love and self-worth, and how to focus attention effectively on both.
  • Strategies to practice self-love while maintaining healthy relationships.
  • Common patterns and beliefs that hinder the ability to receive love and ways to shift these mindsets.
  • The role of self-compassion in emotional healing and reprogramming the brain.
  • Techniques for setting healthy boundaries and overcoming self-sabotaging behaviors in relationships.
  • Plus much more…
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