EP. 1834

10/08/25

Lewis Howes

“You don’t attract love by chasing it. You attract love by becoming it.”

5 Lessons to Become Magnetic — Stop Chasing and Start Attracting [Lewis Howes SOLO]

For years, I chased relationships from a wounded place, trying to prove my worth instead of owning it. I made partners my entire world, confused chemistry with compatibility, and stayed in relationships way longer than I should have because I lacked the courage to speak my truth. Everything shifted when I learned these five lessons about magnetism, healing, and what real love actually requires. This isn’t theory – this is what worked for me after years of painful patterns, intensive therapy, and finally learning to choose alignment over chemistry. If you’ve ever felt stuck in the chase, attracted to the wrong people, or unsure why healthy relationships feel unfamiliar, this episode will show you exactly what needs to shift.

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And now let’s jump into episode 1834 of The School of Greatness!

Some Questions I Ask:

  • Have you been in a relationship before where you’ve been so drawn to this guy or this girl where they’re like, man, there’s just something that draws me to them, but it’s like there’s a wound that you have that your nervous system is like bing, and it pokes at the wound?
  • When is it that you feel unworthy or afraid of rejection in love?
  • Are you drawn to more partners in the past or are you in a relationship now where you were drawn to someone from a trigger out of a wound or out of a pain? Or are you drawn to healthy partners that make you a better person?
  • Have you ever experienced being attracted to someone that continues to let you down over and over again?
  • Do their words match their actions and are their actions consistent day in and day out?
  • Audit your own alignment – are your actions matching your words?

In this episode, you will learn:

  • Discover why making someone your entire world pushes them away – and how to build a full life that makes you magnetic instead of clingy
  • Transform your dating criteria by understanding the critical difference between shared interests and shared values (and why only one actually lasts)
  • Break free from the cycle of chasing people who trigger your wounds by learning to recognize when attraction is actually a red flag from your nervous system
  • Master the daily choice framework that turns fleeting chemistry into lasting love – because real relationships aren’t built on sparks, they’re built on consistent character
  • Unlock true magnetism by shifting from proving your worth to owning it – the one change that makes healthy people finally feel attractive to you
  • Plus much more…
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