EP. 1849

11/12/25

Gabor Maté

“If trauma is the loss of connection to self, then healing is the reconnection to self.”

The Real Reason You Can't Stop Your Addiction | Dr. Gabor Maté

Gabor Maté reveals a truth most people never hear: the abuse itself isn’t always your deepest wound. He challenges everything you’ve been told about healing, explaining how the real trauma often comes from the people who should have protected you but couldn’t. Through deeply personal stories including Lewis’s own journey with sexual abuse, Gabor shows why shame keeps us trapped and how our nervous system’s freeze response was actually protecting us all along. This isn’t about blame or staying stuck in victimhood. You’ll walk away understanding that healing means reconnecting with the parts of yourself you’ve been taught to hide, and that the suffering you’ve endured can actually become your greatest teacher.

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And now let’s jump into episode 1849 of The School of Greatness!

Some Questions I Ask:

  • What would be that next step for them once they start to journal about it and be aware of it and they really want to heal?
  • What would you say for every parent or soon to be parent that they should really focus on in creating for their children? What would be the three things that would set them up for greater success emotionally, financially, spiritually, relationship wise?
  • Why is there such a problem with it?
  • What’s the challenge you feel like you’re still healing or the trauma or the stress that is most present for you that you’re still healing?
  • All suffering stems from what specifically do you think for us?
  • When does someone know that they are on a healing journey? What is healing and when do they know they’re on it?

In this episode, you will learn:

  • Discover why sexual abuse or bullying is often a secondary trauma and the real wound comes from not having emotional safety in your family
  • Transform your relationship with shame by understanding that freezing during trauma was your nervous system’s brilliant survival mechanism
  • Break through the cultural genocide of authenticity by learning which childhood needs must be met for healthy development
  • Uncover why triggers aren’t about the present moment and how to stop letting the past control your reactions
  • Learn what true healing actually means and recognize the signs that you’re reconnecting with your authentic self
  • Plus much more…
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