Ever experience a “sour patch” moment?
You know… when you experience a bad moment only to have a sweet one right after.
(If you still don’t know check out this sour patch kids video)
A sour patch moment could be when you break up with that relationship and feel a sense of relief to be single again, only to realize you already miss the comfort from your partner.
Or that time you finally walk in your college graduation after four years of waiting to get out and be on your own – only realizing once you graduate that you miss the “responsibility of doing nothing” oh so much.
Funny how things work, eh?
My belief is we should always have fun, and be playful no matter how bitter or sweet the moments are.
At least that’s the way I like to act on things.
I actually had a bitter sweet moment recently.
I received a DVD in the mail of an interview that a T.V. station covered of me over four years ago when I was playing Arena Football.
I missed the interview when it aired on the local news and never got a copy of it… until now (view below)
It was a fun story about my usual antics during practice…. slapping five and dancing around.
Yes… salsa dancing at that.
Don’t worry, I was the most focused and determined athlete in practice and during games, but I had to have fun in moments that didn’t need to be so serious.
Because what’s the point of trying to achieve your dream if you don’t have fun along the way… right?
It was a sweet moment watching that video.
I got to laugh at myself and remember the fun times I had playing professional football with my teammates.
It brought back a lot of bitter memories as well as I had played 14 games that season with a broken wrist and could remember the pain I felt every day as the broken wrist bone chattered with the surrounding bones. Or memories of driving home after a loss for a 15 hour drive in the middle of the night with 30 very large men on a sleeper bus… can you imagine the things done and said during these rides? They were a trip!
(here’s me below in the middle bunk on the bus with my wrist protector on and usual gatorades to help with hydration after a game).
Just shortly after I received the video above in the mail and had my bitter and sweet memories, I received a Google alert with my name.
I opened the alert on my iPhone and read this (view image on the right).
It told me that my NCAA All-Division record for most receiving yards in a single football game over 9 years ago… was broken.
Trey McVay of Northeastern Oklahoma State broke it by 7 yards.
I was waiting for this day to happen ever since I broke the previous record back in 2002.
It was inevitable, and I’m surprised no one broke it until now.
Every Saturday during football season I knew it had a chance of being broken, and it just so happened to be on that day.
I was happy earlier in the day and for a short while after receiving that update I was a little bitter.
You gotta enjoy the bitter sweet moments.
Later I found out that even though my All Division record was broken, my Division III record for the most receiving yards in a single game was still intact.
However, that to will be broken one day.
I just can’t win… can I?
You’re Only As Good As Your Last Game
My coach used to tell us that after we had a big win.
That we are only as good as our previous efforts and every game should be played at a higher level because we have that much more experience to work with.
So what does this all mean and why am I sharing this personal moment with you?
My point is we will always have bitter moments, go through challenging times, and have our records broken.
I don’t think the feeling of success is as sweet without the bitter moments we face along the journey anyways.
I’m really happy for Trey and hope he gets to enjoy holding on to that record for more than 9 years… however his record will also be broken one day.
Should I give up, or focus even more?
I’ve got big goals and even bigger dreams (my parents are the ones to blame for making me dream big ;). The moment I learned my record was broken, I felt bitter – started dancing – and then began to focus even more on my game plan for achieving the goals I’m going after right now.
We all have a choice to let the bitter moments rule our thinking, or let it become the driving factor that gets our butts in gear to play our next game better than the last.
Fact is, I can’t try to hold onto my “claim to fame” of some record I broke 9 years ago anyways… if I’m not playing big now then what does it matter when I retired from football so long ago?
Every day I’m thinking about the goals I want to achieve short term and long term and I take action each day to achieve them.
I hope you are doing the same thing.
Of course, you want to enjoy your life, and live the way that makes you the happiest, but if you are going after big goals and dreams you can’t be holding on to past achievements.
Next time you have a bitter moment or someone breaks one of your records just remember one thing… you’ll always feel better right after you start dancing.