Liz Gilbert, Sadia Khan & Guy Winch

How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship

"Nobody is safe from me when I need them that much. So I actually want, as somebody who loves humanity, I want to be somebody who people are safe around."

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Four renowned experts unpack why we stay in toxic relationships and reveal the hidden psychological patterns that keep us stuck in cycles of emotional dependency. Bestselling author Elizabeth Gilbert shares her journey from love addiction to emotional sobriety, discovering how finding a higher power led to deeper self-acceptance. Psychologist Dr. Guy Winch reveals why early relationship patterns become like cement – moldable at first but quickly hardening into permanent dynamics. Relationship experts Matthew Hussey and Sadia Khan explore why we stay in unhealthy relationships, how fear drives us to lower our standards, and the critical importance of communicating deal-breakers before committing. Together, these four perspectives illuminate the path from toxic patterns to thriving relationships through self-awareness, boundaries, and emotional maturity.

"Relationship dynamics are like cement. You can mold it when it's wet, when it's fresh, but you can't, it's much more difficult to do when it's dry. And it dries very quickly." - Guy Winch

And now let’s jump into episode 1736 of The School of Greatness!

"Just because they can tolerate it doesn't mean they should. Only when a partner meets somebody that they genuinely love and respect, but also has a very clear threshold of how much they can handle, does a dysregulated partner start to monitor their own reactions." - Sadia Khan

Some Questions I Ask:

How did you learn about your patterns in relationships after your first marriage into your second marriage?
What are the main symptoms of a sex addict or a love addict?
Why do people often stay in relationships that aren’t serving them?
What are the critical deal-breakers people should communicate before committing to a relationship?
How can someone develop better emotional regulation in relationships?
Why do we often see relationship red flags more clearly as friends than when we’re in the relationship ourselves?
What foundation should be established before entering a new relationship?

In this episode, you will learn:

Why self-care isn’t just self-indulgence, but a “deeply humanitarian public service” that makes us safer for others to be around
How to identify and communicate deal-breakers early in relationships to prevent future conflict
The danger of entering relationships from a scarcity mindset and how it leads to compromising standards
Why emotional wounds require the same careful attention and treatment as physical injuries
The importance of developing emotional regulation and selecting partners who encourage healthy boundaries
Plus much more…

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Liz Gilbert, Sadia Khan & Guy Winch

How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship

"Nobody is safe from me when I need them that much. So I actually want, as somebody who loves humanity, I want to be somebody who people are safe around."

"Relationship dynamics are like cement. You can mold it when it's wet, when it's fresh, but you can't, it's much more difficult to do when it's dry. And it dries very quickly." - Guy Winch