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Why Feedback is a Key to Your Greatness in Business and Life

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What’s the difference between those that get results and those that don’t?

They understand feedback.

There are a lot of people who get results, achieve all of their goals and make lots of money but still are left feeling unhappy, alone, unfit and unfulfilled.

I fell in that category for a long time.

I was achieving everything I wanted, but still felt lonely, angry and like I wasn’t enough.

It wasn’t until I became aware of a number of things that were holding me back from my past, and started to understand how to manage feedback did things start to shift.

Watch this video below to understand what I mean.

(Key to Greatness on YouTube)

There are two types of feedback covered:

1.  Internal Feedback 

How you feel based on the results you are getting.  This could be lonely, depressed, unhappy, exhausted, uncertain and so on.

2.  External Feedback 

The things that are happening around you:

- You been working on a business for 2 years and you have yet to make any sustainable sales.

- You are 50 pounds over weight

- You don’t have many friends

This is all feedback.  There is also Positive Feedback.

Your sales continue to grow, everyone want to spend time with you, you are in the best shape of your life and you are continually asked to speak at events.

Everything in your life is Feedback and you have an opportunity to take it and use it to your advantage.  Allow it to identify where you are coming from and how that is serving you.  Are you focused on showing off or are your focused on providing value to your customers? Are you living with passion and intention?

Focus on what works and identify what doesn’t and use the feedback that is both internal (how you feel) and external (your results) to help create a life of continuous evolution and growth.

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39 comments
ShaneBlick
ShaneBlick

For a long time I have been impatient with my dreams, but recently the external feedback I have been getting is extremely positive. I have been attracting the exact right people into my life and will continue to do so as I move towards achieving my goals. Things are moving much faster than I would have ever expected and I love it!

tristanbyan
tristanbyan

Lewis thank you very much, I am from Philippines, and I am an artist, but achieving my goals aint that easy, I quitted school, and now I am still building a dream, creating my clothing line, and I feel, this video, the site, the words everything Lewis thought me on this really inspired me, thank you so much~ I hope my zero dreams be blessed thank You Lewis :)

Isaiah Hankel PhD
Isaiah Hankel PhD

Just what I needed today. Listening to feedback is so important, but it can be difficult when you are passionate about making something succeed. There is a fine line between being blinded by pride and being confident in the direction you want to take something.

alyssadazet
alyssadazet

Lew... what a beautiful, vulnerable, and well thought out video.  I love it.  


External feedback that has been working - my online business I just launched is blossoming.

Internal feedback that has not been working - I'm feeling tired and unhealthy lately b/c I'm focusing too much on my businesses and not enough on myself.  I must admit that I've been in denial about this lately also.  Time to prioritize health again.  Thank you for the reminder. :)

JillB
JillB

Great video.  I'm always amazed at the feedback/info that pops into my head when I'm open to receive it and am being mindful.  #SOGA 

bevigil
bevigil

Lewis - Thanks for posting this video.  Prior to being exposed to your messages, I had fallen into the habit of blaming my lack of success and happiness on everyone else, or circumstances beyond my control, or the world not being fair, or someone else's bad decision, or the economy or the... You get where I am going.  Enter Lewis Howes' lessons and perspective mid-2013, and suddenly I start to see things differently, including how I am responsible for my exactly where I am in my life today.


One of the ways this last year (2013) that I have been listening to feedback, as you say, is by owning the responsibility for everything that happens in my world - good and bad.  Specifically by taking ownership of what is not working, allows me to try to understand it in the moment, try to come up with a resolution and then move on.  Instead of holding on to the mistake or trying to find someone or something to blame - I own it.


Here is a very poignant example:  back in 2004, I failed at a business that cost me $1M!  (that I am still paying back)  For the last several years I blamed my lack of success today, on that moment 10 years ago; I blamed my lack of money in the bank, my substandard lifestyle, my missed opportunities, my unhappiness, my drinking too much, my negativity all on that moment. 


Instead of owning the feedback - which was fear of failing again; I allowed myself to be paralyzed.  No more!


Lewis - thanks for providing such a wonderful service - your perspective and insight is inspiring. 

wellnessprofit
wellnessprofit

Great video, Lewis, really hit the spot. Every so often, when I wake up wondering why I do what I do and who even cares, I open my email and have five people contacting me about more info and how they can be part of my movement.


It never fails. At first I chalked it up as (lucky) coincidence, now I've gotten to know this as positive feedback!


Thanks for sharing your story and being an inspiration to so many of us! :)

melindayeaman
melindayeaman

Thanks, I really enjoyed this vid and how it reminds me to step back and look at what isn't working and address it. Results truly are feedback!

chris99
chris99

You're so sweet, Lewis, to be so open and share your own experiences in order to help others. This does seem to be at the root of getting ahead in life in general. I'm having problems making a freelance design business successful, so much of what you said resonated. 

Sasha Maxim
Sasha Maxim

I've made it a real point in the last few month to reach out to those around me whom I admire. Those that are humble, centered, powerful people. And it's been so simple - a phone call away. 

This practice has pushed me out of the isolation mentality, which was definitely not working for me. 


Thanks coach. :)



sarahkate818
sarahkate818

Hi Lewis, thanks so much for this video. It arrived in my inbox right when I needed to see it! I appreciated the part where you said feedback isn't categorized as "right or wrong", "good or bad". That is one thing I'm really learning to accept recently. Thank you! 

CaitlinBurt
CaitlinBurt

I'm trying to figure out how to choose myself. I always get what I want I realized, but that means that tiny secret spot of relief I feel not getting the job means I didn't actually feel worthy of it. I want to move into a bigger space mentally where I align with what I really want, and can wholeheartedly claim it.

PriscillaKendell
PriscillaKendell

Wow, Lewis, that was powerfully thought provoking! 

Thank you!

_AlexSantiago
_AlexSantiago

Love getting a sneak peak into the mind of Lewis Howes - it's about time for another solo round on the School of Greatness too!


Internal & External (Positive): Fueling my body with the highest quality food and training has me feeling unstoppable and has also had many friends ask me for health/wellness advice


Internal (Negative): The anxiety and stress that comes every time I consider the possibility of being a full-time employee for someone else. 

slikrsda
slikrsda

Not making the feedback personal is a weakness I struggle with daily. How do I disconnect myself from that feedback and make it information not criticism or feel like being personally attacked?  Love your videos.  Thanks


darronhilaire
darronhilaire

Thank you for such an intimate session. Vulnerability is a strong quality, and in business I think it is so powerful when a person can be transparent about the emotional highs and lows that comes with not just failure, but even with success. I love this because the art of listening is something I REALLY emphasize and pay close attention to learning more about.


So thank you.

Keep up the good work.

& keep us in on this emotional transition.


Peace and love,

D. Hilaire 

Damien Wilpitz
Damien Wilpitz

 Lewis, this is so amazing and important for anyone trying to level up in their life. Feedback is especially difficult when its emotional. Feedback disrupts some of our internal beliefs about ourselves and our world around us. These feedbacks can be emotionally jarring. It's kind of like watching yourself on video for the first time.  It's hard to take those initial feedbacks. It becomes a struggle with your mindset. 

 I struggled with this for years till I came across the life changing psychologists, Carol Dweck.  She wrote the book, Mindset; The New Psychology of Success. She talks about growth mindsets vs. fixed mindsets and how they influence our learning style in life and in work. Its so amazing. 

   Your story about reaching goals to give to others versus to prove to others is so amazing. The mindset of serving others can set you free from negative feelings. 

   Thank you!


PS. You should totally get Carol Dweck to be a guest. I bet she's got great ideas on Greatness.

Pato Ribeiro
Pato Ribeiro

Loved this video Lewis! Really inspiring.

Tami Davis
Tami Davis

Loved the video Lewis! If feedback isn't given, there is not a way to better oneself to achieve greatness. Keep inspiring!! :)

Lane Jones
Lane Jones

Thanks for your honesty here. It's tough as a solopreneur because we can easily get stuck into comparisons and as you said "proving" something to someone. I think External feedback from peers, clients and mentors are great to have as well because they help us get the focus off of ourselves - Like your last guest, Simon Sinek said on the SOG podcast - there's nothing wrong with ego, it's when we get conceited that gets us off track. Love what you're doing. I'm a fan for sure. :-)

Hector Contreras
Hector Contreras

The link isn't opening. I'll try to watch later. Thanks for being such an inspiration.

meganjphoto
meganjphoto

Great vid Lewis, I felt the same way when I graduated from college. 

Navid Moazzez
Navid Moazzez

Great video Lewis Howes, I really enjoyed it :)

LewisHowes
LewisHowes moderator

@wellnessprofit  looks like you are up to big things from your site.  You'd be a good fit for #SOGA ;)

LewisHowes
LewisHowes moderator

@Sasha Maxim  you are welcome... and thanks for sending that card in the mail recently... I appreciate it ;)

LewisHowes
LewisHowes moderator

@sarahkate818  it's all how you perceive it.... that's what I've come to learn at least. 

LewisHowes
LewisHowes moderator

@_AlexSantiago  yes I know, but there are so many people I want to interview ;)  coming out with another solo soon as I'm getting many requests :)

LewisHowes
LewisHowes moderator

@slikrsda  realize that all feedback is just feedback... not good or bad or right or wrong... but where you are at, and don't take that personally... just take it as information to use moving forward. 

LewisHowes
LewisHowes moderator

@Damien Wilpitz  thanks so much, been meaning to read her book.  I'll check it out and if you know her email let me know ;)

CaitlinBurt
CaitlinBurt

If I answer your question with a question: what would it look like if I did choose myself? I realized I would be putting my performances online, id be getting in touch with people instead of telling myself how much I appreciate their work. I'd start that blog. I always feel like I don't have the training so my intention to be the best performer I can be won't pan out. Thanks for the reply! I read and watch stuff like yours all the time but don't discuss it, and apparently that makes a huge difference :)

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