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Summit of Greatness 2024 | September 13-14 | Los Angeles, CA


Matthew Hussey & Sadia Khan

Relationship Experts Debate the Hidden Cause of Cheating (5 Signs to Watch For)

"Your life improves in direct proportion to the number of hard conversations you're willing to have."

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Welcome back! Today, we dive into the second part of a fascinating and eye-opening conversation with two incredible relationship experts, Sadia Khan and Matthew Hussey. If you missed the first part, I highly recommend you go back and listen to it, as it lays the groundwork for what we’re discussing today. In this episode, we explore the reasons why people lead double lives, the root causes of cheating, and the importance of having honest and courageous conversations in our relationships. We also debate the roles of self-compassion and self-respect in building and maintaining healthy connections. Get ready for a lively and insightful discussion that will challenge your perspectives on love, trust, and commitment.


Listen to PART 1 of Sadia and Matthew’s discussion.

"Self-respect and responsibility are crucial in maintaining healthy relationships."- Sadia Khan  

And now let’s jump into episode 1638 of The School of Greatness!

"Self-compassion is the foundation on which tomorrow you do better, as it allows you to take accountability from a place of love, not self-hatred."- Matthew Hussey  

Some Questions I Ask:

  • What are the underlying reasons why someone might lead a double life or seek fulfillment outside of their primary relationship?
  • How can couples navigate the discomfort and vulnerability of having honest conversations about their needs and desires?
  • In your experience, what are the most common signs that someone may cheat in a relationship?
  • How do self-compassion and self-respect play different roles in building and maintaining healthy relationships?
  • What advice would you give to someone who feels their needs are being suppressed in their relationship?
  • Why is it important to consider how a partner might behave in worst-case scenarios, such as a divorce or serious conflict?
  • How can past traumas and unaddressed issues impact current relationships, and what steps can individuals take to address them before committing to a long-term partnership?
  • How does societal pressure and personal fear influence men’s and women’s willingness to communicate their true sexual desires to their partners?
  • What role does self-selection play in avoiding toxic relationships, and how can individuals become more attuned to potential red flags early on?
  • Can you explain the difference between self-care and self-compassion, and why is it important to prioritize self-compassion in the context of relationships?

In this episode, you will learn:

  • The psychological reasons behind cheating and leading double lives.
  • The importance of honest communication in relationships.
  • How self-compassion and self-respect influence relationship dynamics.
  • Strategies for selecting a compatible partner.
  • The significance of addressing past traumas and wounds before entering a relationship.
  • Plus much more…

Show Notes:

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